Two nervous systems, learning to move in time.
A relationship companion that attunes what you mean, unpacks what they meant, and helps two people feel understood — tuned to how you and your partner are each wired for closeness.
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To attune is to bring yourself into harmony with someone else. Attachment theory describes two ways couples fall out of sync: one partner activates — reaches, protests, floods — while the other deactivates — withdraws, goes quiet, needs space. Attune reads that dynamic and helps each of you say things the other can actually receive.
It's not couples therapy in a box, and it never takes a side. It's a calmer, wiser voice in the charged moment — grounded in attachment science and 40+ years of Gottman research.
Like a wise friend, not a greeting card. Warmth with a spine.
Every insight traces to attachment research and the Gottman method.
Holds both people. Never picks a winner; helps each feel the other.
A short attachment quiz reads how you handle closeness and distance — for you, and for your partner. You get a clear, blended result, not a one-word label.
Before you hit send, Attune rewrites the message for your partner's style. Got a reply that stung? Unpack surfaces what's likely underneath it.
Every exchange rolls up into Insights and a personalized plan, so the hard conversations slowly get easier — and more secure — over time.
Each one is tuned to your and your partner's attachment styles, so the guidance is personal — never generic.
Recast what you want to say into what your partner's style can actually hear — softer, clearer, less likely to trigger a defense.
Read the need underneath what they said. Paste a text, or drop a screenshot, and see the bid hiding inside the words.
A 3–4 question check-in, delivered as a chat, that turns into a weekly read on the relationship — with Connection and Repair meters.
Open-ended guidance about your relationship and yourself, kept in the therapy lane with real crisis-safety guardrails.
Every tuned message, unpack, sync, and chat distills into bite-sized takeaways and next steps — with Gottman trend lines per partner over time.
The science of attachment and the Gottman method — plus a full course and a plan personalized to how your style meets your partner's.
Most relationship apps only see what you type into them. Attune can learn from your real history — privately.
The Mac companion reads your Messages history on your device and turns it into month-by-month Gottman trend charts, a relationship arc, and named patterns — then syncs the read to your phone.
Record a real conversation and Attune transcribes it entirely on-device, then returns a deep report: wins and stumbles, Four Horsemen moments, repair attempts, and what to try next time.
Send any conversation screenshot straight into Attune from the share sheet. It sorts out who said what, then hands you an Unpack read — or, if you've a draft waiting, tunes it before you send.
Open the Mac companion and it reads your Messages history locally, on your machine — nothing uploaded — and turns years of conversation into a month-by-month Gottman trend, a relationship arc, and the words you each reach for most. The read syncs privately to your iPhone.
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Your attachment style is your built-in pattern for closeness under stress. Knowing yours — and your partner's — decodes an enormous amount of conflict. It's usually two blueprints colliding, not two bad people.
Find your style — freeComfortable being close and being apart. Trusts, repairs easily, states needs directly.
Reaches for closeness and reassurance. Highly attuned to a partner's shifts; can spiral in the silence.
Prizes independence. Deactivates under pressure and can read closeness as a demand.
Wants closeness and fears it at once. Pursues, then pulls back — two survival strategies at war.
Add everyone who matters — your partner, an ex you co-parent with, a best friend, a parent. Each one gets their own space, their own attachment read, and their own history. Switch between them and the whole app re-targets in a tap.
The more you use it, the more Attune learns how you actually sound with each person — your tone, your length, your emojis, your pet names — from the conversations you bring in. So a message tuned for your partner reads like you-and-them, and one tuned for your mom reads like you-and-her. The voice lives on the pairing, never a one-size-fits-all you.
Attachment shapes how we love, how we befriend, and how we sit at the family table. Attune works for partners of any gender, for friendships, and for the people you were born to — anywhere words land harder than you meant.
A married couple; Marcus leans avoidant. Theo tunes the message before it turns into a fight.
Best friends drift when a jab gets read as an attack. Unpack finds the bid underneath.
The oldest patterns are the family ones. Attune keeps you out of the reflex fight.
Take your attachment quiz and see your results at no cost. Attune is a paid subscription from there — no ads, no data resale, and no fake "free trial" that bills you by surprise.
Full access, month to month. Cancel anytime.
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iPhone · iOS 17+ · Mac companion for iMessage insights
No — and it won't pretend to be. Attune is a companion for the everyday moments between (or instead of) sessions: a wiser voice when you're drafting a hard text or trying to understand a reply. It's grounded in the same research many therapists use, and it will point you toward professional help when something calls for it.
Not at all. Attune works entirely from your side. You can assess your partner's likely style yourself (or run them through the quiz), and every tool helps you show up as a steadier, more attuned partner — which research calls "earned security," and it tends to be contagious.
Voice memos are transcribed on your device and the audio never leaves your phone. The Mac companion reads your Messages history locally, read-only. Text you send to Attune, Unpack, or Chat is processed to generate your result — Attune has no advertising model and doesn't sell your data.
Attune is an iPhone app (iOS 17+), with an optional Mac companion that turns your iMessage history into relationship trends. An Android version isn't available yet.
The attachment quiz and your results are free. Beyond that, Attune is a straightforward paid subscription with no trial — we'd rather charge honestly than auto-bill you after a countdown. Monthly and annual plans are available in the App Store.